How My Dating Life Changed When I Stopped “Meeting For Drinks”
There’s a common misconception that drinking makes dating easier. We’re told that alcohol offers us that little bit of liquid courage we need to loosen up and be ourselves. We learn through media exposure that alcohol makes us sexy, sophisticated, and carefree. We live in a world where the most common first date includes a drink to lighten the nervous energy.
If there’s anyone who fell victim to this myth, it was me. I was an awkward, gawky girl in adolescence. I was taller than most of the boys, unconfident, and shy. I was never asked on a single date in high school. I didn’t really learn how to flirt with boys until college where my flirtation was fuelled by alcohol.
Meeting for drinks
I navigated the dating scene through my 20s with a cocktail as my security blanket. I had relationships where serious and vulnerable conversations were only had with the assistance of alcohol. I had fights and emotional outbursts that were the product of drinking too much. I settled for substandard behavior from romantic partners because I settled for substandard behavior in myself.
I settled for substandard behavior from romantic partners because I settled for substandard behavior in myself.
