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Why Every Single Woman Should Date Herself
How a Breakup with Boys & Booze Helped Me To Truly Love Myself…And Why I Think It Could Help You, Too.
I walked into the dimly-lit theater and apprehensively took my seat. At 31, this was the first time I’d ever treated myself to a movie solo. My thirty-first year would be full of many firsts. This was my first of many dates with myself.
The catalyst behind this newfound relationship was born out of necessity. It was only a few months before that I’d made the decision to take a break from alcohol. A “party girl” in my 20s, I’d had a sudden sense that my life might be better without it. So, as terrified as I was to navigate the world without a substance that had given me the confidence to date in the first place, I listened to my intuition and broke up with booze.
Goodbye Party Girl
Before I go too far, let me spell out what life looked like for me at this point, because it looked pretty “normal” for a woman my age. I was a young, single, successful woman living in a vibrant city. I had an active social life — which meant tons of happy hours and weekends spent boozing out on the singles scene. I was meeting men on dating apps and at bars; neither of which were leading to productive relationships.
